Friday, October 27, 2006

Hello.... :)

I realized that endless cribbing on my personal foibles gets me nowhere. This post is on my effort to overcome one of my several frailties. I often keep complaining about my inability to remember people by their names, especially of those whom I talk to occasionally but pass by vis-a-vis almost everyday. I feel embarrassed whenever security guards at office or a familiar colleague wishes me by my name while I return them with a plain ‘Helloooooo’. I should say that their greeting with a broad smile indeed makes me feel good and is also the reason for the embarrassing feeling that follows. In an instantaneous urge to cover up my forgetfulness, I do drag the “Lo” part of Hello really long and slow with a broad smile. One of my close friends in the recent past even took me as arrogant and proud when I told him that I could not remember the names of his close friends that he introduced to me at a gathering. I always put up with this behaviour of mine as another characteristic of my absent mindedness but lately realized that I rather not. It was not my absentmindedness that always caused it but it was my over self- consciousness while meeting a new person. I realized that I am in fact arrogant for not paying attention to a person when he introduces himself to me. So, I recently made a conscious effort to know all the ones again in my office and made sure that i know them by name. I deliberately tried to introduce myself to people at office with whom i have never talked before. After some consistent effort, I was able to greet every person who passes by me by his name with a very broad smile. It feels great when you wish people by their names especially with a broad smile (“nice to see you today” kinda smile). Whenever a person introduces himself to you, it’s really important that you pay attention. I normally panic when I get introduced to a new person. This state of mind that arises out of excessive self- consciousness is often the reason for me not remembering people by names and not my absent mindedness. The truth that I discovered in this introspection was that I should stop being excessively self- conscious in whatever I do. I should also blindly not accept that I am absent minded. Probably, I am not. Also, If I really pay attention to every thing that I do, I should be able to discover more about myself beyond absent mindedness. I see a long way to go to completely understand my self....

7 Comments:

Blogger Archana Bahuguna said...

Nice blog, will comment soon. :-) 'coz its my topic! Absent mindedness :-) Currently studying for the "exam" :-(

7:04 PM  
Blogger Archana Bahuguna said...

That was a beautiful post and hey, I agree. There is nothing that cannot be worked out. Its only about making something important and focussing on it, and you do it right two three times and it begins to become a habit. Sometimes though, our absent mindedness could be simply because of an overload of thoughts in our brain, but we cannot be using it as an excuse every now and then. :-)

The only good part is that it turns out funny sometimes and we (and others) can have a laugh. Good that you are working on it, and even seeing good results! :-)

8:03 PM  
Blogger deepa said...

Nice Post and Blog...U have done a gud job and keep working on it....yeah, even i have found it difficult at times to remember people by their names....I agree with u, its not absent mindedness.... but everyone of us take it as an excuse....i tried to relate the names to something that is easy to remember...this has helped...

12:32 PM  
Blogger kurrodu said...

Archana, I fully agree with you.
I like sharing those funny moments of absentmindedness. By sharing, not only do i become more conscious of it but also find a reason to laugh aloud.

Deepa, Thanks for visiting my blog.
I also used to do that. I sometimes forget the familiar thing that i was relating it to..:) can you believe it?

4:11 PM  
Blogger Kalpana said...

Remembering people by name is quite tough for me too. It takes time for me. But, good introspection towards urself.

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